Being a good friend
Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience: this is the
ideal life said by
-- Mark Twain
Now what makes you think a good friend is all about? Throughout the whole life we meet lots of people. Many people become our friends but there are only few who possess the quality of being a good friend.
If one notices, we get a chance to meet our friends mainly in three stages of our life. First in school, second in college and the third one is in university. We passed the threshold when got a chance to meet online friends as well. School, college and university friends only are now an old way to make friends.
Many of us have watched the comic sitcom -- 'Friends'. We see there a bunch of guys together and how their lives get connected to each other giving each episode a milestone of friendship.
Just the idea of being a good friend is not enough. You may have heard that at a sudden stage of our life we get to understand who our true friend is and who is not.
Therefore, a friend in need is a friend indeed.
Now the first step towards friendship is honesty. Sometimes people backbite or slander against each other when anything seems not right about their friend. It would be a heart breaking situation. Using moderate words and being humble, one can be expressive to his/her friends. Because over all,
"Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but it'll always get you the right ones."
Respect each other
Respect is the first step in any kind of communication. Often in friendship we don't respect the other one in equal sense. We are allowed whole heartedly to share our thoughts, ideas and opinion. In many cases more than any one we tend to open up to our friends mostly.
A good friend is he who listens to his/ her friend. After all, listening is a good skill and to listen is also a sign of respect.
Do not be Judgmental
Whenever it comes to friendship we should not be judgmental about the actions of the other one. One of the great signs of being a good friend is to make your friend understand that the thing they are doing is wrong or the thing is not correct at all. To make your point clear without judging the other one is a sign of goodness.
A smile can make someone's day. What can be better than giving a smile to the one who is very close to you? We should not forget to give a flooding smile to our friends whom we meet once in a while or the friends we meet on regular basis. Smile and greet would give them the positivity that everything is well. Often from our friends expect nothing but just our company.
Time is the most precious thing; you can give to your friend as a gift. Your small approach and asking how they are can be a great step to make them feel better. It can be a small text in phone, card, a quote or a short visit at their place. Often people ignore such things but these are the small step that makes you a good friend.
The chameleon test
Many people come and go from our life as friends. Some are harmful and some are beneficial. But in this ride, we have to grab the one who shows friendship in real sense and leave the one who shows their true colors. That is the color, I call the Chameleon test. Life is not easy. If you're friend or his/ her parents is not well you should visit them. Being a good friend you should ask about them and show care. Physical contact is another point which is important. Nothing feels better than getting a warm huge from your friend. This shows whatever happens you are there for your friend according to your ability.
It's been a long day without you, my friend and I'll tell you all about it
when I see you again
-- Wiz Khalifa
Those lines sung by Wiz khalifa often brought me into tears. There are some friends mostly in everyone's life that leaves a good mark on their lives. With whom we can't wait to share what we did the whole day. There are some friends with whom life seems small to pass but not friendship. Being a good friend is actually not an easy task but considering it as a task would be difficult but being responsible makes it more fruitful.