A girl in the city...
"Man, is born to be free" --- is it applicable for all human beings? A girl, who wants to be self-reliant, has never got the chance to be free at all. So, logically, she is outside of the man's world. 'The man's world' refers to all the human beings. She is taught to be in the boundaries always. She is supposed to be chained in the man's world from where there is no ostensible rescue. She is taken for guaranteed to follow and live as per the restraints of the male chauvinistic society.
There is a girl who wants to have her freedom, to live according to her choice. She has come to a city to pursue her dreams to be financially and mentally self-reliant. She was too happy as she was to step on the first stair of her dream. The enthusiasm made her forget the fear of being alone. She never expected to face the situation which compelled her to think twice, thrice and many more to be self-reliant and live as per her choice.
On the first evening of the city, she was offered a hotel room by the outsider as she was alone. So, the irony of situation was that she was assumed as a call girl because no 'good' girl was supposed to wander in the roads during the evening.
Still, there were a lot of surprises, more specifically shocks, waiting to astound her and her ideologies.
Even, it seemed that she was losing the rights to make her friends. The men around her would decide who would be her friend. This imposition even leads to religious discrimination in case of choosing friends.
Here began the irony of fate. She decided to get married to get rid of all these tensions which eventually would derail her off own ideologies, and she had no choice left rather than entering the restraints set by the male dominated society from she craved for coming out and living life to the fullest.
There is no way that we blame only male part of the society since women themselves are equally responsible for their position. A girl is taught to follow the rules of the society by the female members of her family. Her fellow mates, who are women, will hardly conform to her ideologies to get rid of patriarchal restraints.
The theory of existentialism deals with the choice of one's own to live life. Unfortunately, women are out of the theory as they do not belong to the 'man's world'. It is 'willful blindness' of women by not living according their own choices. The society will hardly allow them to be free.
It is high time we, the women, need to think ourselves human beings and live like human beings. Living on own choices does not definitely mean the violation of ethics or morality. A girl can maintain the sense of morality if she thinks herself as a human being because the conscience exists among the true human beings.
If a girl or woman can make her own choice, it will give her chance to live her life to the fullest. A girl must be happy to be a girl. She must have equity with the men to get her dreams fulfilled. If she is expected to maintain morality, the same must go with the male counterpart.
The writer is a lecturer, BGIFT