Story of a Lazy Dreamer
We can always learn from the star of a sector - the person who has "been there, done that". On the other hand, we can also learn from the exact opposite. The person who failed miserably. These people are gold mines for learning.
I am a fresher in IBA-JU. I have been attending varsity for just 3 months now. Before getting admitted into varsity I had big dreams - dreams of independence. Financial independence to be more precise. I watched all those "Ayman Sadiq" videos telling us not to take money from parents after getting admitted into a varsity. I watched those videos and felt a fire burning red hot inside me. I completely resonated with that statement and I clearly remember running to my mother after seeing one such video, proudly declaring that I was not going to take any money from her after I get admitted into a varsity.
Indeed, not taking money is a great decision. Because, I think, if one does not take money from one's parents then s/he will understand the value of money and will not take it for granted. In fact, there was no doubt in my mind that being financially independent from my student life would be a great feat and would therefore take me one step closer to ultimate freedom.
So, at first, just like most of the students in our country, I chose private tuition as my source of income. But I soon realized it takes a lot of dedication and time to teach students. Moreover, teaching people will not help me in my desired future career.
So, I wanted to learn web designing and to work as a freelancer as this skill might help me in my future. Hence, I promised myself that I would practice web designing for at least 3 hours a day, every single day for the next three months and would get better at it. I was determined to work as a freelancer from the 3rd month. So, I altered my promise of not taking any money from the start of my varsity life by deciding to take monetary help from my ma only the first 3 months when I would be working to improve my web designing skills.
But to my dismay, it turned out that I am a sloth. The moment I got my first pocket money I forgot about my promises and the will to achieve financial independence. At the very day I got my pocket money, I finished half of it by buying various silly little things. And by the end of the month if I needed more money to pay my rickshaw fares, I just asked my mother and voila! Problem solved!
I took the money for granted and did not feel the need to earn. Therefore, I did not work because I could fulfil most of my needs simply by asking my mother. I soon forgot that my wish to earn from my student life was never about leading a high life. It was about being financially self-sufficient and not being a burden upon my family. It was about being able to buy my loved ones small gifts with my hard earned money. It was about this feeling of importance that comes with financial independence. Nevertheless, I forgot all of these as soon as I got the money and to my horror, I hardly worked in the past three months.
Now, what I figured from my experience is that aside from few incredible people, most of us when in no particular need, take whatever we have for granted. We also look for the easy way out. We feel passionate about many issues, but we despise the hard work needed to achieve that greatness. Despite having passion, I too, chose this easy way and got stuck in my comfort zone. We, the ordinary people often get side-tracked from our goal when we are not in any particular need.
So, I think, to suffer is a must to achieve anything great. I will not take money to eat an Ice-cream no matter how inviting the ice-cream might look in that hot summer day. Rather, I will look at that ice-cream and think that I cannot have it because I did not work for it. I will use this feeling as the driving force which will ultimately get me out of my comfort zone. So, I will finish my article with the undying words of Steve Jobs, "Stay hungry, stay foolish."
Thew writer is a student of IBA-Jahangirnagar University