Seven things of being a Bengali
Afsana Aziz Nitol
Last year BuzzFeed India published a list of things that make Bengalis the most content people in the world. However, with advantages and good things come disadvantages. It is a package deal and when you are a Bengali, you are bound to have some cons along with the pros.
We have the sweetest language. Did you know that in many stances the Bangla language is regarded as the second most beautiful language after French in the world? 200 million speakers use Bangla as their first language. Bequest of Bengali language in the world of literature is no less than English and any other language. Rabindranath Tagore won the Nobel Prize in Literature for Gitanjali and it was written in Bengali initially.
Bengali Food is great. From street food to Chinese food, if it has a Bengali touch in it, you cannot stop licking your fingers. The sweets are heavenly too. Laddu, Shondesh, Kalo Jaam, Roshogolla, Mishti Doi, Chamcham--- who does not love them? The list of Bengali desserts is endless. The sweetness in food is just like the language we speak in.
Bengali people are very welcoming towards guests. If you visit a Bengali house, no matter how much you try, you will not be able to get out of the house without being fed. Bengali children are taught to behave well in front of the guests and they are also taught not to disrespect elders in any way.
Bengalis are colourful with full of festivals. From Pahela Baishakh, Holi to Eid-ul-Azha, they try not to miss any occasion which requires celebration. Each and every month has an occurring where Bengalis will celebrate with a particular colour code, for instance, red and white for Pahela Baishakh, red and green for Victory Day, Yellow for Falgun etc.
It is not about being a Bengali though but certainly as a Bangladeshi residing especially in Dhaka, we are bound to face traffic jam every single day. You have to wait in the long lines of traffic for long hours and start very early from house. This takes up a huge amount of time from your life. Also all the noise and chaos do not help either. You can almost never find an alternative route either because all the roads are busy 24x7.
Bengali parents are very possessive. Before going out with friends, you will be given a lecture and along with this you need to give your parents every little detail of your friends. Then if you are lucky you will have the permission to go out but only with a time constraint. Spending time with opposite genders is seen as taboo by the parents and they will link you romantically with every possible opposite gender friend you have.
Relatives will tell you to get married constantly. In a Bengali society, it does not matter how happy and content you are being alone. The only definition of happiness according to your relatives would be the number of children you have after marriage.
However, these societal problems cannot take the spirits of Bengali people down for they know how to smile in the midst of havoc. They find happiness in the little things such as cricket, Ilish Maach and rain and they will go on in life with such spirit.