‘Child abuse should be uprooted’
I was very young, almost a kid, when I was sexually abused by someone known to my family. It took me 10 years to tell anyone what I'd been through. I was scared about what had happened and didn't know who to turn to. "Looking back, it feels like I lost my childhood. As I grew older, I started isolating myself from my family and friends and had problems sleeping for the fear of nightmares. I used to find it difficult to concentrate in school and had problems remembering stuff. To cope with it I used to inflict self-harm.
"I told my family what had happened to me when I was a teenager. They then had a volley of questions and I was scared to answer all of them -Deep inside me I was worried that no-one would believe me, and at that time no one actually believed my words and from then I was totally shattered. This is a real story from one of my close friends, and actually it's not only happened with my friend it has become a social disease nowadays. And we should stop this by increasing our social awareness.
Child abuse statistics are dangerous. It is estimated that by close relative millions of children are physically abused every year. As a consequence, thousands of children die, mental panic remains for a long time after the external wound has dried up. Primary recognition and treatment are important to minimize the long-term effects of physical abuse.
As I said earlier, my friend was totally shattered and she is yet to recover from the trauma. So whenever a child says that he/ she is misused, it should be taken seriously and should be followed up immediately.
The burning question is as to why some people abuse the children. They are actually mentally sick and they need medical attention. Normally the things that are liable for abusing children: a poor self-image, sex drive, faith or unable to love others, aggressiveness, confusion and sometimes illegal behaviour, self-destructive behaviour, suicidal nature thoughts and passivily, retractable, or chic behaviour, fear of entering new relationships or activities, anxiety and fear, school problem or failure, feelings of depression or other symptoms of depression, flashback, nightmare, drug and alcohol abuse, sleep problems etc.
The family should come forward in uprooting this problem. Every family should take care of their children properly and build a close relation with them so that they would inform them firstly if they feel something bizarre. And when a kid wants to tell something, the parents should listen to it attentively and take necessary steps. The parents should give the children confidence. If the children understand that their parents won't rebuke them, they certainly will tell them everything without any hesitation and will never hide anything. By building a good relation with the children parents can stop child abuse and also can protect their child from being abused. And moreover there are schools, colleges and other social institutions which should come forward to create social awareness on this issue.
Written by Sadia Tanha
Student of Dept. of Fashion Designing, Shanto Mariam University Of Creative Technology, Dhaka