Teaching emotional intelligence to juniors
Your child is struggling with his math homework. Instead of yelling and giving up, he tells you how frustrated he is and asks for help. Or this one: Your child's friend gets some upsetting news and cancels their plans to hang out. Your child understands why his friend doesn't feel like socializing and makes other plans.
These responses might not seem like a big deal. But they're signs of an important set of skills that make up what's known as "emotional intelligence" (EI). This type of intelligence isn't measured by IQ tests. Nevertheless it's crucial to helping us work through challenges and respond to situations successfully. It also helps us make positive connections with the people around us.
Emotional intelligence can be especially helpful to kids with learning and attention issues. At the same time, certain learning and attention issues make it harder for some kids to develop it.
There are five basic parts emotional intelligence- Self-Awareness, self regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills.
A person knows what he's feeling at a particular time. He understands how his moods affect others, it is called self awareness.
Self regulation helps how one can control how he/she responds to his/her emotions. He/she considers possible consequences before acting on impulse.
Motivation helps one to can accomplish goals in spite of negative or distracting feelings he may be having.
In empathy one can understand how others feel. Lastly, social skills, where one can manage relationships. He/she knows what kind of behaviors get a positive response from others.
Fortunately, all five components of emotional intelligence can be taught and learned at any age. There are many tools and techniques that can help parents and their children start to identify and understand the emotions of others. This process begins with recognition, because it's only when we notice where we're at that we're able to shift ourselves to where we want to be.
The writer is a graduate of
Psychology, University of Dhaka