New Year, new dilemma
New Year comes with not only expectations but also some real problems. Nowadays, it is an event celebrated all over the world. In fact, New Year is nothing but a particular point to measure time. If we imagine time a piece of sheet, the beginning of a year may be situated on any point of that sheet. So, on the one hand, new year is the imaginary beginning of time, on the other hand, our life is real and it goes on as time flows without any divide in itself.
And, the conflict starts here. The term 'New Year' means the beginning of a year but we are not new; even our emotions, schedules, expectations, works -- all remain almost same. In fact, we have new expectation regarding New Year with the same old things. Moreover, a New Year also is a source of new hassles sometimes.
Unfilled resolutions of previous year
Usually, new year begins with unfulfilled resolutions of previous year. So, the first work of a New Year may not be new for an individual. As the previous year leaves some traces on new year, it is hard to efface those traces. One should make a plan either with or without those previous year's unfulfilled tasks what makes a dilemma. One may need to include some previous year's unfulfilled tasks in his new list for new year.
Dilemma for the fresher:
Students from different parts of the country get admitted at various universities at the beginning of a year. Most of the universities are Dhaka centric while the large portion of the students is not used to the environment and decorum of the city -- new to them. They have to accommodate to a new academic institution, schedule and a new living place.
Whether it is residential hall at the campus or youth hostel, a fresher has to face several new problems at the beginning of a year. The ambience of the campus is very alien to them and so as the ambience of the city. The students from the rural area are used to roam in an open and green expanse; but in a city, they have to face the gray circumstances and small allies.
High expectations and identity crisis of fresh graduates
Student life is considered to be the time for preparation for professional life; and if that preparation is complete, a person is expected to be engaged in a job or profession. As the student life is ended, the graduates are expected to utilize their education.
The guardians are not well aware of job market always. On the one hand, highly competitive job market does not find qualified workers; on the other hand, the job market cannot create much job opportunities.
Whether it is about searching a job or introducing oneself to others, fresh graduates face identity crisis. They are neither employed persons nor students. New graduates are not considered unemployed up to a certain period. So, they face a hassle when they need to identify themselves.
These people strive for getting a new identity. In our country, due to socio-economic conditions, people cannot get relieved of this identity crisis so easily. So, the beginning of a year is the beginning of a new dilemma to the graduates.
Although, the fiscal budget is passed in the middle of a year, the fair of train and bus services are increased at the beginning of the year, perhaps for the second time after the adaptation of new budget. It is the congenial time for the house owner to increase house rent. Even, riding on a rickshaw becomes more expensive.
Electricity bill, gas bill are also seen to be increased at the beginning of the year. Therefore, life becomes more expensive and people need to anew their budget in different fields of expenditure.
Increasing price of commodities
Petty businessmen celebrate a new year by increasing the price of commodities. From necessary goods to luxurious commodities, price hikes everywhere. Price may sore sky-high without any logic; and if it is increased once, does not decrease ever usually. Price hike is the thing we are used to. Our mental setup on this matter is that, it happens.
New year yet single:
People, those are adult but are not engaged yet usually subject to be victim of tease of his or her friends, cousins and sometimes by elders. This is not a very old phenomenon in our society since the relationship was not a matter of hide in the recent past. But, now as the society is more open and free, not having an affair is a matter to be victim of banter.
So, a new year begins with banter to a single adult individual. It is also excruciating to a single individual to see his or her friends are engaged. Although New Year starts with new expectation, it is uncertain to an unengaged individual whether he or she will be engaged in an affair or not in the ongoing year.
Family pressure to get married or take a baby
Once one has became a graduate and started job, parental pressure starts to get married; and if he or she is married, faces the pressure to have a baby. More than a need of being in marital relationship, it has become a societal tradition in Bangladesh to get married. Marriage is an institution what must be fulfilled in our society. There is an urge to the guardian to see the grandson or granddaughter and there starts emotional blackmails of parents.
Tackling the retirement
Retirement from job does not mean the retirement from life. After the retirement, an aged person is free from official responsibilities and duties, and he has to accommodate with a new circumstances and new mental setup. In fact, he or she has to play a new role in the family.
Sometimes the retirement from job affects a person negatively; more specifically, it harms the mental health. For many elderly persons, a new year starts with the retirement from their job; and starts with agony.
New Year does not always come with positive things, there are several dilemmas of different types those are also appeared at the beginning of a year to different types of people. In spite of having such hassle and dilemma, we will always expect the best.
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